Jen’s Story: Turning Sobriety into a Mission

At Leaving Mayhem, we believe in the power of sharing real stories from real people in recovery.

These stories remind us that sobriety is possible, no matter where you are in your addiction journey.

Today, we’re proud to share Jen’s story—a sober coach who turned her recovery into a mission to inspire others.

Jen has taken her personal experience and transformed it into a tool to help those navigating sobriety.

She recently wrote, designed, and created a journal aimed at helping people stay focused, document their journey, and achieve their goals.

This journal is more than a notebook, it’s a companion to keep people on track as they walk the path to sobriety.

       

The Courage to Lead by Example

Jen knows how isolating it can feel to be the first in your circle of friends to quit drinking, but she sees it as an opportunity to lead.

“You’re planting a seed within others by raising your hand first and showing them it’s okay to not drink and still have a good time,” she says.

“Having alcohol-free weekends doesn’t make you boring. Being hungover all the next day does.”

Her journey hasn’t been without challenges, but her perspective on sobriety is powerful.

She reminds people in early recovery that progress takes time.

“If you don’t feel better in two days or even 60 days, that doesn’t mean sobriety isn’t working."

"Change takes time."

"Keep going."

"Trust the process."

"You’ve already seen where drinking can take you, let’s see where sobriety can take you.”

The Importance of Self-Care

Jen emphasizes that self-care is critical for maintaining sobriety.

“Self-care is always the first thing to go before a relapse. Make time for yourself,” she says.

She highlights December as a particularly challenging month for those in recovery.

The added stress and social obligations make prioritizing rest and recovery even more important.

Tools for Navigating Social Situations

For many, holiday gatherings and social events can be triggering.

Jen suggests several ways to politely turn down a drink, from a simple “No thanks, I’m good,” to sharing that you’re on an alcohol-free journey or in recovery.

For those who want a little extra support, Jen suggests wearing a statement shirt, her favorite is one that says, "Sober Is Cool."

Sobriety and Mental Health

For Jen, getting sober was life-changing, especially for her mental health.

“Drinking made me depressed and anxious,” she says.

“Quitting allowed my cortisol levels to rebalance, helping me find new ways to truly relax and unwind."

"My confidence and self-esteem have drastically improved, and now I find joy in the simple things.”

She’s also passionate about the role exercise plays in recovery.

“Exercise is one of the best tools to repair your brain and keep you sober."

"The benefits far outweigh the temporary relief alcohol gives you,” she explains.

Leading by Example

As a mom, Jen is determined to show her kids that it’s possible to handle life’s challenges without turning to alcohol.

“As long as you don’t pick up that first drink, you’re in control."

"Stay sober."

"Stay in control.”

Her journey has taught her that even when the road feels hard, sobriety is worth it.

“Getting sober is the best thing I’ve ever done for my mental health,” she says.

Why We Share Stories

At Leaving Mayhem, we share stories like Jen’s to celebrate those in recovery and to show what’s possible.

These stories are meant to inspire, encourage, and remind anyone struggling with addiction that sobriety is within reach.

No matter where you are in your addiction journey, it’s never too late to turn your life around.